The Blood & The Bones

Male Advocacy

This is something I get asked about quite a lot. I suppose it’s because of the content of my writing & my focus on shining a brighter light on the good in man..reminding people that men are also human beings. Flesh & bone & able to experience stress, vulnerability, heartbreak & sadness. It seems society & the media only highlight the bad, screaming so loudly about toxic masculity or treating men like robots who aren’t allowed to speak out..who must fall inline with their idea of what a man should be which seems to either be beta & compliant or evil enough to make for good news stories.

As a girl who grew up around mostly boys & was surrounded by some very strong men, I feel it’s my duty to bring attention to the positives that people don’t seem to want to notice anymore. And let them know they are understood, valued & appreciated.

I’m not a woman trying to dictate what makes a man, although I clearly have some strong opinions about it. I am only trying to support the voice of man & amplify on his behalf.

And, to be clear, I’m not an advocate for men because I crave male attention. I get enough of that in general.

It’s not the most popular platform amongst other women & I get a lot of hate because of it. But that won’t deter me. I will continue to advocate for men because there aren’t enough people, of either sex, campaigning for & defending men’s mental health & his ability to be the kind of man we used to revere as strong, masculine & a capable patriarch of the family. And while I believe it is important to allow men to evolve, you can still be the alpha, dominant male & believe in positive mental health. Knowing that it’s ok to be weak at times & feeling comfortable reaching out to your peers, professionals & family. Imagine how many lives could be spared from suicide if we just let men feel it’s ok to speak up when it’s all too much. And any person that thinks men don’t deserve to be happy, healthy & vocal & doesn’t understand that even the strongest of males needs a support system, is a part of the virulent culture you continue to try and blame on everybody but yourselves.

Yes, toxic masculity exists but so does toxic femininity & I refuse to be a part of it.

LL